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How To: Initiate Skin Contact
Making any form of physical contact with a girl for the very first time is an event whose significance can’t be underestimated. Whether it’s during the early stages of dating or it’s with a girl you just met, skin contact is an indication of progress; once you’ve put it behind you, you can work on increasing the length, frequency and intensity of such contact. There are many different ways to break the touch barrier, so in case you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to initiate skin contact, I’ve put together a list of some of the best approaches to help you do just that.
Be warned: Many of these maneuvers require a certain amount of tongue-in-cheek chutzpah to pull off. Therefore, it might help to acknowledge this by adding statements like, “God, I haven’t done that since I was 14!” Hell, we all like to revisit our youth, even if only for an instant.
Brush an eyelash off her face
Yes, it’s something you’d expect to see more often in annoying romantic comedies than in real life, but when executed properly, removing a tiny hair off her face can have a startling effect on a girl. It says to her: “I’m looking out for you. Even the smallest thing won’t get by me.” She may laugh, but 9 times out of 10, she’ll consider it enjoyable skin contact.
Take her hand to lead her somewhere
The behavior of the alpha male is seldom better on display than with this gesture, which is a relatively low-risk way to initiate skin contact. It demonstrates leadership, the ability to protect and social confidence. You know she doesn’t actually need you to guide her through the room, but by doing so you’re letting her — and everyone else watching — know that you have what it takes to watch out for her.
Offer her a massage
If she looks or mentions being stressed out, move in quickly and suggest a shoulder rub. She’ll be grateful for the idea, and it’s a perfectly appropriate way to introduce your hands to her body. Make sure you know what you’re doing, though, because nothing spells romantic disaster like a pinched nerve. In fact, if no one has ever complimented you before on your massage skills, you should stick to a light shoulder rub to stay on the safe side.
Make contact if you’re dancing
The beauty of this technique is that, since you’re dancing, you pretty much have a license to put your hands all over her. Well, maybe not all over her, but you definitely shouldn’t be afraid to put a hand on her hip and allow yourself to get a bit closer. Simply put: Let your pheromones do the talking.
Have a humorous arm wrestle or muscle competition
This playful suggestion allows you to make physical contact with her while establishing the gender roles that even the most modern woman would have a hard time denying. Obviously, you don’t want to initiate skin contact of this kind if her muscles are bigger than yours, in which case you have other, more important things to deal with.
The final points on how to initiate skin contact…
If she’s cold, take her hands in yours and rub them
Again, this one’s slightly on the cheesy side, but, when pulled off with a dash of irony, it’s guaranteed to get a laugh and generate a connection. It also lets her know that you can offer her a warm, safe place, even if it’s only for a few hours. Just make sure your friends aren’t watching.
Tell her you’d like to read her palm
This trick is ripe with possibilities for cheeky wit. When she stares at you while you focus intently on her palm, which you’re holding in your hand, you can say all kinds of flirtatious things to make her laugh. For example: “Oh my god, I just had a glimpse of what you look like naked. So sorry. Uh… Could I see that again?” See what I mean?
It’s impossible to get to where you want with women unless you take a few bold steps along the way. So get the ball rolling with some of the techniques we’ve just discussed. What have you got to lose?
Source: Private Media - 2008
Things Women Love To Hear
In some ways, women are a bit like Labradors: if you say the right things in an appropriate tone of voice, they’ll do what you want. Alternately, women also have the potential to be like caged lions, and if you piss them off and are dumb enough to stand around, they’ll rip your head off. For that reason, we want to highlight some of the things that women love to hear and show you how certain phrases can consistently be used to score major points. Of course, the last thing we want to do here is spew out a list of platitudes that every guy knows women never get sick of hearing. Instead, I’d like to suggest some alternative phrases and the reasons why they are so effective.
These are not pickup lines; they’re phrases meant to be used on a girl you already know. Perhaps you’ve been dating and you want to take things to the next level. Or maybe it’s even a long-term girlfriend and you’ve been going through a rough patch. You might even be a bit worried that she’s losing interest and is starting to look around for something else. Whatever the case, the following is meant to give you an idea of different ways to verbally press her buttons by saying things women love to hear.
Generally, the things women love to hear can be placed into four categories: compliments about her appearance, words confirming your commitment to a future together, verbal displays of territorialism/jealousy, and questions that demonstrate an interest in her life.
Give compliments
The comedian Chris Rock said that women need three things: food, water and compliments. So, it’s not a matter of women just wanting to hear compliments, they actually can’t live without them. If they don’t get them, they might even shrivel up and die. If you can periodically reel off a nice compliment and genuinely mean it, don’t hesitate to do so because the benefits will come back to you in spades. However, be careful not to flood the air with empty flattery, as even the most attention-starved girl will see through your seduction strategy and call you out.
Examples of things women love to hear:
“You look incredible.” It’s simple and effective. Every girl wants to hear this, particularly when she has gone to some trouble to look nice.
“Those jeans look great on you.” This is a polite (and obvious) way of telling her that she has a nice ass.
Show commitment
When you include her in your future plans, you’re giving her a glimpse of the security — whether she’s 19 or 36 — that she probably craves. So, say something that indicates to her that you intend to be a part of her life for a long time. Invite her to a high school reunion that’s still six months away. It’s enough to let her know that you envisage a future together, but not so bold as to suggest marriage and the rest of it.
I have more things women love to hear for you to memorize
“I’d love to take you to (enter place of choice) this summer.”
“I’m not interested in anyone else.” In any relationship, questions will inevitably arise about your commitment to her, so when she asks, say something like this to counter her doubts and reassure her that you’ve found all you ever needed.
Be Jealous
Being creatures of the natural world, women expect men to be the protectors in a relationship. And when we don’t act like it, they get irritated and begin to look elsewhere. We have to show them how much we care, which means that we have to get territorial once in a while. We’re by no means suggesting violent outbursts and paranoid accusations, but rather, some gentle prodding that demonstrates that you don’t want to lose her to anyone. At the end of the day, if you don’t take an interest in your girl’s well-being, someone else will come along with an offer to do so.
Examples of things women love to hear:
“Where were you?” You don’t have to be suspicious, just inquire about her whereabouts from time to time.
“Who’s that guy?” Ask her this in a half-joke, half-serious tone and she will think it’s cute that you’re still evaluating the competition.
Ask questions
You can win major brownie points just by demonstrating an interest in her day-to-day affairs. Of course, this means paying attention to previous conversations and remembering key details that you can impress her with later.
More examples of things women love to hear:
“How was your day?” Asking her something as simple as this can be an effective and engaging start. Be careful, though: even this phrase has been known to spark hour-long conversations about things that may mean very little to you.
“How’s your brother doing? Better, I hope?” Show her your compassionate side and ask about her friends or family members whom she mentioned were ill or going through some problems. She will be impressed that you remembered and grateful for someone to speak to about it.
Just as important as what you say is how you say it. If you dish up these phrases and don’t actually mean them (which is often the case), you obviously have your work cut out for you if you want her to actually believe you. Work on your style and delivery, and don’t bandy these phrases about without some serious recognition of the power they hold.
Source: Private Media - 2008
Financing a Mistress
There’s no such thing as a free lunch; the same goes for free love — or, lust. Assuming you’re fit to handle the physical and mental demands of having a mistress, you best be set to spend dearly if you want steady action on the side. Financing a mistress is — ironically — a sizable commitment. Here’s a breakdown of a typical year’s worth of expenditures for your lovely lady on the side.
Basic expenses
Entertainment
Assuming she’s not into the clubs and concerts that don’t take effort and expense to get into (which also pose the greatest risk of exposure), you’ll be buying your way into some big-ticket shows several times a year. Quite a dilemma: You’ll want great seats, but you don’t necessarily want to be seen.
Cost: $3,000 (12 events, averaging $250 each)
Travel and transportation
Even legitimate business trips don’t have to be all business. If you want some breathing room and the chance to be together in public for a change, take her along to make downtime your get-down time. Naturally, take care expensing this “executive assistant,” “interpreter” or “independent consultant.”
As for transportation, this covers a lot of bases. It could count as an anonymous car you and your mistress use specifically for your engagements (registered to an LLC for good measure) or it might be cab fares and “you-didn’t-see-anything” tips. Clearly, the days of using your parents’ car for free transportation and carnal deliverance are long gone, and your mistress won’t take kindly to the gift of a bus pass.
Cost: $7,000 ($2,000 airfare for quarterly round-trip fares of about $500 each; plus $5,000 for car or cab fare and silencing tips)
Gifts
What’s an impractical risk of marital implosion without buying impractical goods? We’re afraid this isn’t a matter of whether she likes expensive gifts; it’s a matter of how often she requires them. Jewelry is probably going to take the biggest bite, though she’ll eventually ask for new furniture after her puppy (yes, the one you bought her) destroys her old set. Do we really need to remind you not to buy her a blender?
Cost: $7,500 ($4,500 for jewelry, $750 for the lousy mutt, $2,250 for new, non-puppy-bitten-and-defiled furniture)
Salon and spa
She wants to look good. You want her to look good. Any questions? If so, they’d better not sound like, “Why can’t you wash your hair and put cucumbers over your eyes at home?” If those words should ever happen to fall from your mouth, you deserve whatever befalls you afterward. Chances are, it won’t be pretty. Our advice: Shut up and pay.
Cost: $4,200 (Monthly salon and spa sessions averaging $350 each)
Cheating isn’t cheap…
Housing
If you’re meeting for trysts at a motel, you may as well put up your mistress in your guest house, complete with neon sign to attract as much attention as possible. Neutral, discreet ground is in order. An apartment is a wise investment. Even though it will require a sizable outlay, it’s potentially far less damaging than motel registration records.
Cost: $12,000 (Typical metropolitan one-bedroom apartment, plus utilities, averaging $1,000 a month)
Clothing
If you had your way, she wouldn’t own a stitch of clothing and she’d just pine for you in the nude. Look, you already have a mistress. Don’t push your luck. Invest in some designer clothing for her, and her pining will be for hardwood. FYI, Steve & Barry’s is not a designer label.
Cost: $6,600 (Averaging $550 per month)
extra expensesAs if all this weren’t enough, you have to consider the outside-outside expenses. These are truly rainy-day expenses, but that rainy day will come eventually. When it does, be ready for the extra payouts.
Extra expenses
Hush money
As discreet as you think you are, you’re bound to be caught by someone you know — or worse, someone you and your wife know. If you’re lucky, you can buy their silence. Simple opportunists will accept cash and be done with it. The truly despicable, however, may hold it over your head like the sword of Damocles, requiring frequent and demeaning favors.
Cost: At the very least, your pride
Damage control
You might think you’re being slick and perfectly devious until your wife gets suspicious. Don’t ask how she’ll find out. If we knew how that happened, we’d be selling the secret to the highest bidder. All we can advise is to be ready to go into pre-damage control mode. To appease a suspicious wife, it will take equal measures of tangibles and intangibles: “just because” presents, a trip to a place she’s always wanted to visit, a little extra attention, conversation and cuddling (just don’t overdo it or you’ll be dead obvious).
Cost: If you pull it off, less than half of your assets
Bear with us and do try to summon enough blood back to your brain for a few words about erasing the financial evidence. Even though the means to finance a mistress may not be an issue, the trail of ATM withdrawals and credit card statements could blow your cover. If you were already putting a little money aside when your marriage was peachy, you can use it to fund your extracurricular activities now that life with your betrothed is in the pits.
If you have nothing in reserve except your pent-up urges, the only laying you should do is the foundation for discreet finance. Have your company direct-deposit a portion of your salary into a secondary bank account you’ve established on your own. If your company grants a meal allowance or an expense account, work it — but don’t get greedy. Raises? Divert the difference into the account. Bonuses? Fail to mention or at least underreport it to the domestic authorities. If she doesn’t heavily screen your income taxes before signing, you’re golden. Otherwise, more than a few accountants receive calls immediately after couples sign off on their 1040s: “Um, by the way, when we were in your office, I forgot to mention…”
And the grand total is $40,000 and some change for 12 months of tappin’. That’s like buying a new BMW 3-Series Coupe every year. If you’re going to finance a mistress, you definitely have to pay to play. There’s no free lunch, and lust isn’t about to come your way gratis either.
Source: Private Media - 2007
Good Girls vs. Bad Girls
There’s an old joke that goes: Good girls say “No!”, bad girls ask “When?”
It’s the classic dichotomy for the male psyche — madonna vs. whore, Mary Ann vs. Ginger, housewife vs. ho, homebody vs. party girl. Which of the two is better?
As men, we’re instantly aroused by the Pamela Andersons of the world, but inside we know we could never tame — much less trust — a female like this. Instinctively we seek out more normal, down-to-earth women when we’re thinking of marriage and children.
Still, it’s a problem that never goes away. We want the best of both worlds: a princess on the street and a whore in the bedroom. Someone who is nice and treats us with respect, yet who acts like a wildcat in heat between the sheets. So just what are the advantages and disadvantages of dating bad girls and good girls? And is it possible to somehow combine the two types into one perfect woman?
First, let’s look at some of the qualities embodied by the Bad Girl:
THE GOODS ON THE BAD GIRL
She’s fun
She can party all night, drink herself into a stupor and still get up the next day and be ready for more. She’ll laugh and flirt, and make you feel like a man.
She’s exciting
Bad girls are walking adrenaline rushes. For her, life is a roller coaster ride, and it’ll get your blood singing just to be along for the trip. Bad girls never have time for introspection or depression — they’re too busy grabbing the world by the horns.
She craves sex
The bad girl loves men and makes no bones about it. She’s more than happy to fulfill any fantasy you can dream up. She’s the kind who will tear up the sheets while she’s screaming out her seventh orgasm in a row (you’ll feel like you’re the king of the sexual world). And you won’t have to deal with any head games — she’s more than happy to seduce you 24/7.
She’s eye candy
Bad girls are usually very attractive with jaw-dropping figures — the ultimate “hot babes”. They know how to walk the walk and strut their stuff. They get off on being the center of male attention. A bad girl loves plunging necklines, bare midriffs, high heels, skirts hemmed at mid-thigh, strapless anything, and sexy lingerie (if she wears any underwear at all).
She ups your status
When you have a stunner like this on your arm, all other men are jealous and women are intrigued, and immediately your stud rating soars into the stratosphere. You’ll be the stuff of legends when you regale your buddies with tales from your bedroom.
Bad girls won’t be loyal…
THE BADS ON THE BAD GIRL
She’s untrustworthy
All men want her and she knows it, and she’s definitely a serial flirter. Because she’s such a sexual animal, she’s apt to seduce anyone who strikes her fancy, so you shouldn’t expect a bad girl to be loyal.
She’s dangerous
She’s the type who will go 100 in a 30 mph zone just because she likes the rush. She may be into drugs or excessive alcohol consumption. She’s spontaneous, unpredictable and wild.
She makes a bad partner
Bad girls are extremely self-obsessed and selfish. They think about one person: themselves. They’re extravagant and will spend their last dime on themselves. They don’t settle down comfortably. For these reasons, they usually make lousy wives and mothers, and rarely survive lifelong relationships.
She is expensive
No low-maintenance here — from day one she’ll be looting your wallet for expensive meals, trips and jewelry. The typical bad girl sets a very high price on the use of her vagina, and if you don’t want to cough up the cash, there’ll be plenty of guys panting in the wings to pay her price.
THE GOODS ON THE GOOD GIRL
She’s wholesome and nice
A good girl is rarely bitchy or “empowered.” She’s pleasant to be around and has a positive attitude toward life. She’ll go out of her way to help you or take care of you when you’re sick, and when problems arise, she’ll discuss them calmly, instead of flying into a rage or screaming at you just because you’re a “man”.
She’s a clean slate
With her limited sexual experience, a good girl doesn’t have a lot of men to compare you to and won’t expect you to be a world-class lover.
She’s unlikely to cheat on you
Good girls tend to be homebodies, not party girls. Because she doesn’t present herself in the same sexually-alluring manner that a bad girl does, you won’t have to worry about a lot of other guys coming on to her. A good girl wants to find the one true love of her life and stay with him until death do them part, instead of seducing half the male population before she gets too old.
She’s often your best friend
She genuinely enjoys your company and gives back to you as much as she takes. When you’re gone, she misses you; when you’re at home, she showers you with attention.
She’s easier on finances
Good girls can rate low on the maintenance scale — they’re much more likely to share dating expenses (just because it’s the right thing to do), and if you get married, she’ll happily throw her paycheck in with yours to pay the mortgage and bills.
She makes a good wife & mother
The typical good girl is practical, down-to-earth and nurturing. She loves children. She usually comes from a good family and wants to carry on those family values in her own life.
Why the good girl may still be useless…
THE BADS ON THE GOOD GIRL
She’s about as exciting as vanilla
Since she’d rather stay at home reading a book than go out partying, life with a good girl can be a bit uneventful.
She can be a sexual dud
Good girls are often boring in bed, either from lack of experience or lack of desire. Sex with her is predictable. She rarely inspires lust and will probably wait for her man to initiate lovemaking. This can leave the typical guy very unfulfilled, his gaze straying toward that bad girl over there with the unfettered nipples and the long wraparound legs.
She’s fashionably comfortable
She wears her hair pulled back and little make-up. She prefers sweats and tennis shoes to mini skirts and pumps. Oftentimes, you can forget about thong underwear.
The good to bad…
So the question remains: Which one should you choose? The obvious answer is that the perfect woman would embody the best of both of these types — the niceness and loyalty of the good girl and the sexual abandon of the bad girl.
While such women may exist naturally out there, it’s more likely that, to achieve this ideal, you’ll have to train a good girl to be bad (because there’s no way a bad girl is going to be good).
How?
Well, this may not be an easy task, because many good girls have been brainwashed by mom, church or school into thinking that “bad” is inherently wrong. So the trick is to encourage her natural sexuality. Make her comfortable with sex. Romance her. Tell her how sexy she is when she seduces you or fulfills your fantasies — or how satisfying it is to fulfill hers. Let her understand that great sex between the two of you can create an awesome bond, and that it is — ultimately — “good”.
So while bad girls can be exciting, they’re usually only worth it in the short term. If you can find a good girl and turn her into a sexual animal, you may just have found the perfect woman. And pretty soon, your good girl may be asking, “When?”
Source: Private Media - 2007
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